Food, Feelings and Body Issues


Having the right nutritional and health information for your body is powerful, but to completely change our behaviours we may need to address our food and body issues.

Most of us have food issues to some degree. Did you  have to clear your plate? Eat your liver before you could have your pudding? Do something good to get an Oreo? Do you get ice cream when you are sad? 

We humans have oodles of complicated feelings
 when it comes to food.

One of those feelings is deprivation; diets for me are about deprivation,
 but I can decide to trust myself, not to diet anymore. Instead I can see food as enjoyable and see investing time and money into healthy food as a way to nourish myself. By eating in a way that I know I can eat for the long term, I can reject the diet mentality in favor of a permanent lifestyle change.

“If you try to lose weight by shaming, depriving and fearing yourself, you will end up shamed, deprived, and afraid. Kindness comes first. Always.”
― Geneen Roth

Another common feeling is guilt. This comes up when the voice in your head is mean to you when you eat a cookie or something your mind didn't think you should eat.  Tell your mind to shut up and stop blaming you, instead be kind and ask yourself why you ate the cookie.

 “Compulsive eating is only the symptom; believing that you are not worth your own love is the problem.  Go for the love. You will never be sorry.”
― Geneen Roth

When you eat not because you are hungry for food but because you are hungry for "something" to fill that un-named hole in your soul, ask yourself, what would feel fulfilling?

“These powerful seven principles, when practiced, help you change your relationship with food and eat less compulsively.
 1.     Eat when you are hungry.
2.     Eat sitting down in a calm environment. This does not include the car.
3.     Eat without distractions. Distractions include radio, television, newspapers, books, intense or anxiety-producing conversations or music.
4.     Eat what your body wants.
5.     Eat until you are satisfied.
 6.     Eat (with the intention of being) in full view of others.
7.     Eat with enjoyment, gusto and pleasure.
― Geneen Roth

 Then there are the cravings. Contrary to conventional wisdom, cravings are not the result of poor-willpower. They are not entirely your fault!!  

Eat each bite slowly, as if heaven existed right here, right now, and you deserve to experience it.
― Geneen Roth

There are billion dollar campaigns with the sole purpose of engineering food that we will want to keep eating.  Evolutionarily speaking we are supposed to want food that tastes good. But in modern times, these foods are too abundant because the science is aimed at making foods so palatable they are like a neurological firework on our tongue.  Regular real food doesn't do that (until you have been eating only real food for a while).

"You're you, whether you're eating wisely or eating excessively.  But when you're eating wisely, you're expressing love for yourself.  When you're eating excessively, you're expressing fear."
― Marianne Williamson

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  1. and what about those of us with food addiction, low impulse control, continual temptation issues, compulsive eating what ever that is, hyper-palatable food issues, chemical addiction to foods, obsession issues, food desire issues, poor food knowledge, no control over our food that is available to us, living under a food pushers control, or all of the above. You are not dealing with the problem, but rather your opinion of the problem.

  2. That is a wide variety of serious and deep issues, I am not proposing that a few quotes and articles will "deal with" those problems. I am suggesting that such issues need to be addressed (and a good starting place is kindness as opposed to self judgement). I am also suggesting that all the information in the world about macro and micro nutrients or what type of food is ideal will not address those issues.